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What To Do When You Suspect Something Is Wrong

September 22, 2013 By Bukola Oriola

Bukola's table at the UMC women's event
Bukola’s table at the UMC women’s event

I was at the Big Waters United Methodist Women fall gathering yesterday in Milaca to share my story ans a victim of human trafficking. The vent was successful, they room was filled with women from various United Methodist Church. They were grateful that I shared a story that opened their eyes about the issue of human trafficking. I took several questions at the end of my presentation. Some questions and comments came as one on one. In fact, I was very happy when one of the women told me she was knitting some things for Alexandra House. In addition, my local congregation, United Methodist Church of Anoka adopted Alexandra House as the ministry of the month where donations are taken to be sent to Alexandra House.

I had a grandmother who was worried about her daughter and granddaughters. She feared that they are being sold for sex in Wisconsin. I said to her “you know, there is help for them.” But she said they don’t tell her anything and the grandchildren are in their twenties now. She suspects something is not right. She speculates that they are being sold for sex but did not know how to help them. I think she also mentioned a great-granddaughter who is eight years old. But she said that the social worker is involved with her. I am still feeling her pain as I write this piece. What do you do when you find yourself in this kind of situation? The answer is TALK TO SOMEBODY. Connect with a local organization where you can be couched on how to get the person or people you suspect are in danger to talk to you, especially when they are family members. You can also invite them to events. It is much easier when a victim can identify him or herself as a victim to reach out for help.

Please, send in your questions and comments.

Bye for now. Until next time.

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Sam Gets a Seat in a College Classroom

September 2, 2013 By Bukola Oriola

Sam watching a classroom show on Netflix
Sam watching a classroom show on Netflix

As a single mom, one of the challenges I face is getting a babysitter sometimes for my son, Sam. School resumed last week and I have one seated class on Tuesdays and Thursdays – Women in Global Perspective. Meanwhile, my son’s school has until tomorrow, a day after Labor Day, to resume. One of my friends, Angela has been helping to babysit him; however, she was busy last Tuesday and Thursday, plus, my schedule for both days were crazy that I could not have taken him to her for help anyway.

So, I decided to go to class with him. I was not just going to go in with a kid and never cared if my professor was okay with it – I was really hoping that the professor will have no problem with it. My heart skipped a little. When we arrived at the campus, I was searching for the classroom but ended in a wrong room that has the same room number. It was a staff’s office. One of the ladies in the room offered to help. She asked “are you looking for something? Can we help you?”  It was almost 10 minutes to 11:00 Am when class starts. I replied, somewhat confused, “yes,” then I told her the room number. She said “it’s not here but I can help you find the room. It is over by Nursing and Business.” She turned to Sam and said “are you going to Kindergarten or First Grade?” Sam was shy to respond, so I cooed him to reply. He said: “First Grade.”

The lady turned to me and said, “we don’t want you to be late for class, so we better get there fast.” She continued, “I know the kids are yet to resume.” And, I said, “yes, they don’t resume until next week. I hope it is okay to have him in class.” She replied, “he should be fine.” At this time we were already at the crowded Nursing Department and she pointed the corridor where the class is situated to me. I thanked her and went to look for the room number.

For a few minutes, I was greeting almost every student that entered the class while standing at the door with Sam, especially those who dressed formally and almost looked like an instructor. After a while, I decided to reserve a spot at the back, as I noticed the class is a large one and the seats were filling up quickly. I had my laptop and had Sam watch Netflix with headphones.

Dr. Zara, she likes to be called by her name, entered the class at 11:01 AM and greeted. I gave her few minutes to settle and rushed to the front, as if I was going to report myself for committing a crime, and told her that I had a child with me. Her response was warm and kind; using her hands as she talked, she said”don’t worry about it” with a nod, she added, “you can bring him any time.” I heaved a sigh. I thanked God in my mind and went back to my seat. Before the end of class, she told us that we will be having permanent seat in class until the end of the semester. “This will help me to know you by name,” she explained. She even came to speak with Sam at the back. She wanted to meet him. Another classmate who said she has an older son commended Sam for being a good boy during class. She said “you can’t even tell there was a kid in the class.” Turning to me she said,’ I always like to commend when a child is well behaved. It shows the parents is doing a good job.” I responded, “thank you.” and was grateful for the nice comment.

On our return by Thursday, the professor already had seating sheet. She invited everybody to the front to write down his or her name. Then she beckoned me to bring Sam to the front to write his name on the seating sheet. So, Sam entered a college classroom seating. He starts school tomorrow but will be going to class with me whenever his school was closed.

Do you have any interesting story with your kids? Please share it right here. I will love to hear it.

Thanks for reading. Until next time.

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Seeing Through the Eyes of a Mentally-ill Person

September 2, 2013 By Bukola Oriola

Cover of Madness: A Bipolar Life by Marya Hornbacher
Cover of Madness: A Bipolar Life by Marya Hornbacher

If you have not read any book about mental illness, I will recommend this personal story book entitled Madness: A Bipolar Life. It is one of the recommended readings for my Creative Non-Fiction Writing class.  After reading the first part of the book, I posted the writings below in the General Comment Section of the D2L (Desire To Learn – a section used by instructors and students for class activities in the United States):

Marya Hornbacher goes full circle in Part 1 of “Madness: A Bipolar Life” by starting from the cutting incident that leads her into the emergency room, and bringing us back to the same point after shedding lights on her life as a person suffering from mental illness.

It is a mouth full. She creates a vivid mental picture in her writing, uses repetition for emphasis, even as she delves into this inherited disease that has no cure. She uses adjectives to describe her mental and emotional feelings. She succeeds in educating the reader about the intricacies of this illness with her day and night struggles in a world where there are neither proper diagnosis nor proper treatment for her condition.

I am learning and hopes to learn more about the life of a Bipolar in my quest as a creative non-fiction writer.

Thank you Professor Kysar for recommending this book.

Bukola

Thanks for reading. I hope you can get this book and learn about mental disorder, perhaps, to be able to better understand someone with this condition.

Bye for now, until next time.

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What You Can Do to Help a Victim of Trafficking

August 25, 2013 By Bukola Oriola

Audience at Minnesota West Community and Technical College, Worthington
Audience at Minnesota West Community and Technical College, Worthington

I have mentioned my trip to the Minnesota West Community and Technical College in Worthington, Minnesota, in my last post, however, I thought I should share one of the questions I do get from the audience whenever I am out on such occasion; or when I communicate with people one-on-one. Sometimes, it comes in form of a comment, but is actually a question. This time, it came in form of comment from the email I received from Le Lucht, Coordinator of Multi-Cultural Affairs and Diversity of the college, and it reads: “…The conversations will continue about the Human Trafficking issue, but many of us would like to “do something” to help the situation, but are unsure what to do.”

To answer this question for Le and may others who are wondering what they can do to help the situation, I will say “show LOVE in your community. Compassion and care are embedded in love. Saying hello to the next door neighbor can go a very long way. You can never know who you will save one day by the expression of love. The federal government awareness campaign says “Look Beneath The Surface.” How do you do this – by looking for non-verbal cues. Victims of human trafficking are constantly living in fear. Even when they do not say it, it shows all over them that they are afraid.

To do something, you can become an advocate in your community; talk about it at your church, mosque, friend’s party, any kind of gathering, and, or join a local Rescue and Restore Coalition ( partner of the national Human Trafficking Resource Center). I have attended someone’s birthday party as a speaker where she invited her friends to learn about the issue of human trafficking. If you want me to come to your event or party to share my story and help educate your friends about human trafficking, I will be glad to. Just send out a request by filling out the contact form.

I can do something, you can do something, and we can do something to help victims, survivors, and prevent human trafficking in our community.

I hope to talk to you again through my blogs. If you have questions, comments or suggestions, please, send me a note – fill out the contact form. I want to hear from you.  You can also get my recent posts by signing up to receive updates.

Thank you, until next time.

Bukola

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Be Your Neighbor’s Keeper

August 24, 2013 By Bukola Oriola

Bukola Oriola at Minnesota West Community and Technical College, Worthington
Bukola Oriola at Minnesota West Community and Technical College, Worthington

Human trafficking has become an issue that concerns everybody. It was a pleasant evening at the Minnesota West Community and Technical College in Worthington. It was my first time in this town. I had been corresponding by emails back and forth with Le Lucht, the Coordinator of Multi-Cultural Affairs and Diversity of the college. There had been press interview over the phone and I found that the college received a lot of media press for the event.

It was quite impressive to see the crowd as they began to gather few minutes before the presentation. The staff members were friendly and warm; and when I finally met Le, she was a very pleasant woman. She introduced me to her husband, colleagues and community partners as they arrive the venue. At least, 70 people were in attendance.

As usual, I shared my story, alongside, the meaning of human trafficking, what to watch out for and how to be their neighbor’s keeper by showing love and compassion in their community. I was glad that there  were first responders in the audience, especially when domestic abuse is what might be seen first before further investigations reveal human trafficking.

I was even happier that my presentation was further buttress when one of the local organization’s staff explained how they were able to help five women who were victims of human trafficking but showed up at first as victims of domestic abuse. She explained that they found out during intake screening. So, you never know, you might think you are being called or responding to domestic abuse, and it

Audience at Minnesota West Community and Technical College, Worthington
Audience at Minnesota West Community and Technical College, Worthington

could be more than that. The victim could be a trafficked victim.

I will like to say a big thank you to Le with this email from her:

Bukola,  Good Afternoon!

I trust that you made it home safely and that you made your meeting on time!  What a powerful message you shared with us last night through telling your story.  I have had a number of individuals who had attended and some who had already heard about your testimonial  comment on “how close to home” human trafficking truly is.   I have had at least two people contact me about getting a copy of your book…  God Bless You for your willingness to be forthright in your life’s story.   Thank-You and please keep in touch.  Le

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