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What a Good Boss!

January 26, 2014 By Bukola Oriola

26117_378819201972_6368959_n A good boss is the one who helps his subordinates. I witnessed a perfect example of that at the Anoka Auto Zone by Ferry Street. It was seven degrees outside when I pulled up in front of the auto retail store to get new wiper blades and a battery check. After checking the battery, the auto sales representative, Steve said to me, “Your battery is weak; although, it is not bad, you can still get some use out of it.” I hesitated. I had been stranded too many times, especially during this fierce winter season as a result of dead car. Few days ago, I had to call for help from a friend, Annette, who drove all the way from Andover to Anoka with her husband, Jim, to help me jumpstart my car.

Noticing quickly that I was skeptical about keeping the battery, he asked, “Does it not work after you have parked it for a long time, like two weeks or more? Or, does it just stop working each time you park it?” he was trying to find out why I was hesitant to see if I should proceed for a purchase. I told him, “The car just wouldn’t start sometimes. I don’t have to park it for long. During the winter season, it has been acting out badly and I have been stranded many times.” He said, “Okay, let’s look at the batteries available. Then, I asked, “Will you change it for me?” He responded, “Yes. Then, we went back into the store.

When I first I entered the store to get attention from the sales representatives, he was the first to come forward, but he was kind of a little bit nervous. I could tell he was probably a new staff at the store. One of his colleagues nudges him forward with his hands to take on the job. Sheepishly, he said, “Hello, how can we help you?” I told him that I wanted wiper blades and needed my battery checked to see if I needed a new one.

“No problem,” he said. “What is the make of the car?” He asked. “2009 KIA Spectra, I replied.” I was looking at the computer screen as he searched for wiper blades. There were various price ranges and I chose the range within my budget. It was about $17. He went into the display area and picked the wiper blades, then came back to look for the battery tester tool. He seemed to have a little trouble finding the tool, but one of his colleagues pointed it out to him. As he grabbed it to go outside with me, a female colleague advised him to leave the wiper blades on the cash register first, check on the battery to see if I would be making a purchase, so that I could pay for both at once. Then, he turned to me to ask, “Would you like to buy a new battery if you needed one?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “Okay,” left the wiper blades on the cash register and proceeded to go out.

I followed him and quickly went to open the car to get the bonnet open. After, we agreed that I wanted a new battery; he went back to his computer to search for the right one. Thereafter, he went to get the new battery to install in my car. I paid for the battery and wiper blades, including a car tune for my gas tank. Installing the battery in seven degrees weather in Minnesota was not fun. Steve did not have gloves on and taking the old battery was not too difficult but putting the new one in was like a herculean task. He seemed to be struggling with it. I had to go inside the shop with my son to wait, and watch as he tried to install the battery.

“I wish that I could help. I wish it was summer and not winter,” I thought, as I pitied him for struggling with the installation in such a cold weather condition outside. He took several trips back and forth the store to get one tool or the other to work. At some point, I heard one of his colleagues said, “Good night boss.” I looked to see who the boss was, and I found that it was an older man who was attending to a customer at the cash register when I had walked into the shop. He impressed me when he got to Steve and stopped. I was watching to see if he would stop to give him a hand or just say good night and walk away. He was the good boss. He stopped. He then, gave Steve a hand. He was working on it for a while when another colleague of Steve went outside to join them.

At last, the new battery was installed. The colleague who went outside asked if I had paid for the battery, and I said, “Yes, do you want to see the receipt?” He said, “Yes,” and I reached in my purse to get the receipt. When I handed over the receipt to him, he held onto it. So, I asked, “Can I have my receipt back?” He said, “Yes, but I need to give you back $15. I was surprised. I said, “I bought wiper blades too.” He said, I know, but I still need to give you $15 back. Well, it turned out that he actually gave me $16 and some cents. While he was giving me the change, I saw Steve and his boss coming into the store. I asked his colleague who was giving me money back for the name of the boss, and he said, “Jeff.” I said, “He is a good guy.” He replied, “Yes.”

I could not help myself, when Jeff came in, I said to him, “You are a very good boss. Thank you so much. He smiled and said, “Thank you.” Meanwhile, I had reached in my purse for a little tip for Steve for the work on the car. I gave him my little tip and said, “It’s a tip for you. Thank you so much.” He replied with a smile too, “Thank you.” I left the store and went to start my car. The car started with a very nice sound, so I knew the old battery was not just weak, but was almost bad. I tried my wiper blades, which flew on the windshield. Then, one of Steve’s colleagues, who had gone out to install it ran out to fix it. I came out of the car to ask what was wrong with it, and he said, “Sorry about that, I just put it there, I couldn’t install it when the bonnet was up.” He fixed it and I was a happy customer. I waved bye to them, Steve came out to ask if the battery was working, and Jeff, who was back outside to leave, said, “Yes.” I waved goodbye to them, smiling. Happy that they did an impressive job, I drove away.

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Why You Can Talk to Kids About Human Trafficking

January 25, 2014 By Bukola Oriola

At The Enitan Story table with my son, Sam
At The Enitan Story table with my son, Sam at Empower Freedom Conference

I was sitting beside my seven year old son, Sam outside of the auditorium of the Calvary Church, listening to Stephanie Page, a speaker at the Empower Ladies Conference entitled Proclaim Freedom, when he said, “She’s talking about you.” He thought the speaker was talking about me because he heard Page said the word, “human trafficking” in a statement she had made in her presentation. Empower Ladies Conference was a human trafficking awareness event, which we attended as vendor for The Enitan Story.

About 20 vendors were displayed on the red and light brown ceramic tile floor hallway facing the church’s auditorium. The Enitan Story shared a table with Family Life Ministries, a couple counselling program in Brooklyn Park. As I sat at my table glancing here and there, nicely made handmade jewelry were displayed on the table covered in black table cloth in front of the bag display table on my left hand side.  There were other exhibits, including handmade bags, purses, crafts and things at the venue. United 1 Front is another nonprofit working with aftercare givers for victims of human trafficking in the Twin Cities. A considerable amount of crowd gathered for the two-day event. Perhaps, about 100 guests were present.

Fierce Freedom, a nonprofit focusing on education and awareness in Eau Claire, Wisconsin is one of the three organizations that the event was raising funds for. The other two were Stories Café and People Serving People. Founder of Fierce Freedom, Jenny Almquist had come to get coffee from the Ray’s Roast Coffee table displayed opposite The Enitan Story’s table when she invited us to join her upfront, close to the auditorium in order to listen to the speaker. I promised to join her and went into one of the classrooms facing the hallway to get a chair. Sam got one too. For a minute, Sam went to the mirror on the display stand by The Fierce Freedom’s table checking himself out. I didn’t even know it was a mirror until Almquist told me later that she saw Sam checking himself out in the mirror. She said, “He is so cute. He was looking at himself and checking out his teeth.” I could not hold my laughter back when I said, “I had no clue that was a mirror.” I was seeing it from the back, so I thought it was a sign of the organization used to display scarfs, because a scarf was sitting on it.

Well, I was curious about why my son thought that the speaker was talking about me for mentioning “human trafficking” in her statement. He said, “Because you do human trafficking.” Then, I said to him, I do human trafficking advocacy.” He struggled to pronounce advocacy for a minute, but I helped him to pronounce it and also asked him to say “human trafficking advocacy.” I told him that “I am doing human trafficking advocacy because I want to help others.

I am not surprised that he knows my work has to do with human trafficking. When I began to produce Imprisoned Show at the North Metro TV in Blaine, I used to take him to the studio in his car seat, where he sat or took a nap during our production. In that process, he has learned about the topic that his mother has been working on.

I began Kids Against Trafficking on the show to sensitize children about the issue of human trafficking at their level. Human trafficking awareness does not have to be revealed to children in a gory state; it can be taught in a way that will help them learn about the issue.

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Human Trafficking Awareness Month…What Next?

January 25, 2014 By Bukola Oriola

At The Enitan Story table with my son, Sam
At The Enitan Story table with my son, Sam at Empower Freedom Conference

January has been an eventful month with human trafficking awareness. Various activities and programs flooded almost all communities across the United States. President Barack Obama opened the activities on December 31 when his Presidential Proclamation on human trafficking awareness became public on the White House website. Everywhere you turned, there was an event taking place. Some were a month long, a week or a day.

When I attended the Survivor Forum organized by the Office For Victims of Crime Training and Technical Assistance Center (OVCTTAC) at the White House in Washington D.C. last week, there was an array of events that spur the city. Various government and nonprofit agencies organized and hosted events in commemoration of National Slavery and Human Trafficking Prevention Awareness. One of the downside to some of the events was the fact that they were invitation only events.

The Social media had a share of the publicity. Uncountable posts filled Facebook pages from individuals, who are passionate about fighting this crime to organizations creating awareness about their events or services. In fact, I received a Facebook message from a colleague in Nigeria about a female journalist, Tobore Ovuorie,  who went undercover to expose sex trafficking in the country. Sadly enough, some of the sex trafficked victims were also harvested for body parts and organ trafficking. The story was published by Premium Times, although, the investigation was conducted in conjunction with ZAM Magazine of Netherlands.

As I write, I have done six presentations this month both as a speaker and as a participant. I am writing this post at the Empower Freedom event at Calvary Church in Roseville, where The Enitan Story is a vendor. Today is January 25, meaning that there are only six days more until the end of the month. What is next in terms of human trafficking awareness? I think, everybody can do more. The awareness has to be intensified beyond the month of January. The more we talk about it, the more we will be able to prevent ourselves or loved ones from becoming victims of human trafficking of any form.

What will you like to do, or are planning to do, to end human trafficking in your community? Please share your thoughts below.

Thank you for your time.

Bye for now, until next time.

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A Forum and Listening Session Indeed!

January 20, 2014 By Bukola Oriola

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When I received the official invitation to join 19 other survivors of human trafficking across the United States, to participate in a Survivors Forum and Listening Session, I did not know exactly what to expect in actual fact. I had a mixed feeling – I was happy on one hand to have been selected for this prestigious assignment; on the other hand, however, I was anxious. I was anxious to know whether the federal government really meant what it said about engaging survivors to provide expert opinions on how to better serve victims and survivors of human trafficking in the United States. The session was organized by the Office for Victims of Crime Training and Technical Assistance Center (OVCTTAC) of the Department of Justice.

Well, I was not disappointed. The session was great. The government officials did as promised. They listened to us speak. We bare our hearts to these people, who showed great concern for change for the better for victims and survivors in the United States. They were willing to consider every suggestion and paid attention to every detail we provided.

In fact,  there were white sheets of paper on the wall, where we were supposed to post our written

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Group of survivors, Photo by Shandra Woworuntu

suggestions on sticky notes. I was surprised that they even had a paper on the wall called, “The parking lot.” The Parking Lot was for posting ideas that were not mentioned in the discussion but burning on our minds. The moderator said, “We are going to look and read every suggestions out there.”

Another gesture from these passionate agencies’ representatives was the fact that they thought about survivors who could not make it to the session. They even asked us to tell them what some survivors had told us that we could share, because the government is thinking about all survivors and victims at large. That gesture showed me that there is hope for victims and survivors of human trafficking in the United States. It was also interesting to know that the department of labor was represented in this discussion, in order to provide jobs for survivors.

Overall, it was a great forum and listening session. I hope to bring you more in bits.

Please, feel free to leave your comments or ask questions below.

Thank you.

Bye for now, until next time.

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It’s Weather Emergency Day

January 6, 2014 By Bukola Oriola

Snow in Minnesota When I was going to bed last night, it was -25 degrees Fahrenheit with wind chill that felt like -45 degrees Fahrenheit. On Friday, Janaury 3, Minnesota State governor, Mark Dayton declared “no school” for today statewide because of the brutality of the expected weather.

I have not stepped outside today, but I can feel the cold even indoors. Right now, I am covered in blankets with a space heater on, yet, I can still feel the cold as it sneakily makes it’s ways in through windows and doors panels.

Fox 9 meteorologist, Keith Marler updated his post this morning at 6:59 with “WIND CHILL WARNING until Tues at Noon.  Expect wind chills of -40 to -60 this morning & Frost Bite Times of around 5 minutes … a high of -16 this afternoon (chill of -40) … -20s with chills -40 to -60 again tonight … then a high of -2 with a chills of -15 for Tuesday…”

The cold is not leaving us any time soon. The school district called in today to cancel schools for tomorrow to avoid mishap on the way to school, during school, or after school. Right now, it is -13 degrees Fahrenheit, but it feels like -35 degrees Fahrenheit according to the Weather Forecast. The forecast also have been showing an alert since yesterday that says, “Severe weather alert #1: Windchill warning in effect until non CST Tuesday.”

According to the local news, this kind of weather was last experience in Minnesota in 1997.

The governor’s press release provided some safety tips for parents. You can visit the link to find out the detals. http://mn.gov/governor/newsroom/pressreleasedetail.jsp?id=102-107322

You can Read more about Marler’s weather forecast at: Today’s Minneapolis-St. Paul weather forecast – KMSP-TV http://www.myfoxtwincities.com/story/17358397/minneapolis-weather-forecast-today#ixzz2pepREccm

Well, if you are in Minnesota, I hope you are staying warm.

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